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Helping Students Cope With Grief

Resources for Parents When Helping Your Child Cope With Grief
  • Focus on your child over the week  following the tragedy and offer extra reassurance about your support
  • Model calm and controlled behaviors and be a good listener
  • Make time to talk with your children each day, but don’t force them
  • Let children express their emotions and reassure them that it is okay to feel upset
  •  Answer questions honestly while keeping explanations developmentally appropriate
  • Encourage them to express fond memories
  • Maintain a “normal” routine…but don’t be inflexible
  • Express hopeful thoughts
  • Monitor social media (i.e. Internet, Facebook, Twitter, etc.)
  • Utilize resources your school/community has in place to help children cope
Grief Counseling Community Resources
  • Hospice of Wichita Falls - 940.691.0982
  • Christ Home Place Ministries - 940.696.0181
  • Red River Hospital - 866.509.4122
  • Helen Farabee Center - 940.397.3100
  • Starry Counseling - 940.386.9546
Online Resources
Resources for Teachers When Helping Your Student Cope With Grief
  • Model calm and controlled behaviors and be a good listener
  • Provide information directly to your students in a calm factual way and dispel the spread of rumors and or speculation
  • Keep explanations developmentally appropriate
  • Maintain structure and stability. Routine is good.
  • Encourage children to express their feelings and let them know it’s okay to be upset
  • Be aware of students who may have recently experienced a personal tragedy or have a connection to the victim in some way
  • Be mindful of children who exhibit extreme anger, fear, or anxiety
  • Utilize the use of campus counselors and allow them to refer to community resources when needed
  • Allow memorializing activities such as making cards and pictures for the family or listening to special music
  • Be aware of your own stress level and seek support as needed

What to say

  • “I wish I had the right words, just know I care."
  • “I am sorry.”
  • “I’m here for you.”
  • “My favorite memory is…”
  • “I’ll be here for you, not just today, but as long as you want.”
  • “It’s good to see you laugh,_____ would have liked to see you happy.”
  • “How can we honor _____’s life?”